Why we use cue vs command
Command is a word frequently used within the dog world and within the force free community we have expanded our language to use cue instead of command. (I personally say "ask" because a cue is to ask our dog to do something and ask is just within my vocabulary).
Cue and ask is a question, if we ask someone, be it dog or human we give them a choice of, yes or no. We might not like or expect the answer of no but it is one we have to accept.
To command means that there is no wriggle room, here in the dictionary when ascribing to an action and not the military a command is to force someone to obey. https://dictionary.cambridge.org/dictionary/english/command
It's always difficult using new words and replacing a word and nobody is going to bully you for not learning right away, because this is the whole point of this post, learning is a process and a journey.
But try it, try changing your language from "I gave my dog a command" to "I cued or asked my dog for a behaviour."
If your dog doesn't give the behaviour, that's OK! Remember learning is a journey and if they don't give a paw or a down on the first cue, just try again later, chnage your handling skills or adapt the cue. It is OK to adapt learning for your individual dog, because all dogs are individuals and like us they all learn differently!
Image description: Title reads: Why we say "cue instead of command" on a green background, with two white bones, a white cloud, white stars and a yellow tennis ball, with a photo of a Wolfdog on a walk in the centre with 4 pink petals as text boxes.
Text box 1 reads: cue means we ask our dog to do a behaviour and connect with them on an emotional level.
Text box two reads: command can means force and within the Oxford dictionary has negative connotations.
Text box three reads: cue has the connotation of we want to make a connection and create a choice.
Text box four reads: changing something as simple as command can change our perception of our dog.